Or I should say the feeling of emasculation. By way of centuries old social constructivism, there is now a pervasive notion that losing your virginity is a crucial step to becoming a “man”. This has a devastating effect, as you see. There is little worse for a man to feel than to lose his perceived sense of masculinity, as he uses such a sense to align himself with the world (give him a set of responsibilities etc).
Ofc what it means to be a “man” has gone through serious scrutiny as of late. One can only hope that this notion as well goes through a reappraisal (it might already) for the next generation of lonely men.
If you’re 21 (or around that age) like me, you’ve probably grown up with this sentiment. The best advice I can give myself and you is to find means to be responsible. Fill a role. Being a NEET only exacerbates feelings of inadequacy. But hey the fun part is that we are all NEETs in this lovely eve of an outbreak.