There’s a name for it.
Whenever anyone I respect shows even a little negative action towards me my mind starts spiraling into thoughts of despair and turmoil
It’s only with people I respect though. Also was diagnosed with ADD.
Think this is true of a lot of incels perhaps. In that they have an overreaction to negative stimulus. Perhaps their parents tried to frighten and confuse them a lot as a kid at random, which makes them want to seek the positive attention of others, but will be more sensitive to any queues of scariness.
Psychiatry isn’t really a science but behaviors can be mapped to their various categories.