Hi. I identify as an incel. First let me make clear that there are a VERY wide variety of incels. First let’s start with this site. "Incelistan.net , is a purplepill–leaning pacifist and gender-neutral incel forum."
What does do these references to different colored pills mean? First the term “purple pill”. Purple is a mix of red and blue. In the context of men’s rights activism, “taking the red pill” means seeing a world where women hold power over men. The blue pill is the opposite - it’s the feminist notion that men hold power over women (patriarchy). These colors come from a movie called “The Matrix”. Anywho, purple pill is in the middle with some people on one side and some people on the other. Personally I am a blue piller. I consider myself a feminist and believe that it’s my fault that women don’t want to sleep with or date me. I don’t blame women - I blame me. There’s also a “black pill”. Black pill is basically the notion that unattractive person (i.e. the person who considers themselves black pilled) are fucked and that they might as well kill themselves. Pill color is one way that incels identify.
Another way that incels identify is based on their self-perceived reasons for why they can’t get laid or can’t get a girlfriend. These terms are usually created by taking the reason and adding the suffix “-cel” to the end. For example a person who believes that they can’t get a relationship or sex because of a mental health problem like autism, depression, or schizophrenia is a mentalcel (mental-cel). In practice anything can have the suffix “-cel” added to the end of it. For example if an incel lives in the middle of nowhere and feels that is why they can’t get sex or a relationship they can refer to themselves as a locationcel (location-cel). Personally I am a mentalcel. I have SEVERE psychiatric problems and psychological/personality issues. Mental-cels are a common type of incel.
But yeah, saying that all incels are murders is like saying that all Black people steal. It’s kind of a mean stereotype. Also some incels are women. There’s a reddit page/group just for women incels. Women incels usually are more like “I can’t get sex from any guy who I want to have sex with” where as male incels tend to be more like “I can’t get sex” or “I can’t get a relationship”. Also I would consider “I can’t get sex” and “I can’t get a relationship” two different things (I identify with both) but in practice some people who identify as incel fall into one group but not the other. So yeah, incels are a diverse group. Oh, and there are internet trolls who just go on incel boards to post annoying shit like “Transexualism is a judeo-feminist conspiracy to castrate men” but you should ignore or ban those people. There are a lot of them on other incel sites and occasionally I see them here but not as much as on other sites.